by Nola Summers
(04/07/04)
Please go ahead and do whatever you want, as long as I told you that you could. Aries will be obeyed, they will get their own way, and they are not shy about pushing their own agenda. Who's more important here anyway? They love to talk or listen about themselves -- the fact that this is all about them is reason enough for everyone to read it. Now this can be interpreted as supreme self-confidence or incredible vanity. They see what they want to see; in your reaction to them, their place in the world, in the mirror. Slap a pair of heels on your Ram, dangly earrings, a shocking pink baby-doll set (see through, size 2XL), and lipstick in Blush Pink, and this he-man will think he's the sexiest creature around -- a veritable Venus. If your Ramette feels like strapping on something, she will lube that latex as if it was her own -- "I have a fabulous cock." When they decide to do something -- they do it -- all the way. And in the process lend strength to that adage that if you think you look good, and feel like you look good, chances are you do -- no matter who you're doing and which side of the gender fence you feel like sitting on today.
Rams love to come first -- literally. Now this isn't saying that if you don't get your licks in first you're out of luck. It does mean that you need to be aware of who's getting ready to come, or who came first last time, and the time before that. They are not selfish lovers but they are self-centered and while you may be, on occasion, satisfied to let your Ram or Ramette reach their peak in a stage set just for them, don't expect to be the lone star yourself too many times. They are closet romantics to be sure, but the starring attraction will be the Ram. Here's an opportunity to watch without bringing in a third party -- tell them you want to see them make themselves come -- and this may be one of the few instances where they'll take direction. When "go fuck yourself" becomes a term of endearment instead of a challenge. As long as you are watching and offer the right compliments -- you look marvelous -- it should be quite the show, as our Aries lover will put as much effort into loving themselves as they do into loving us. I mean, after all, why wouldn't they?
The Ramette is an independent and domineering woman -- which can be intimidating to the non-initiated and more than exciting to the partner who attempts to corral this creature. Her motto may very well be "take it or get out." Personally, I'd like to take it -- as often, and in as many variables as she offers. She'd like total fidelity -- agree to this because you'll be taking it as often as possible and in more variables than you can fathom. You likely won't have the energy to stray anyway. Her jealous nature is not fueled by personal insecurity, we've already established that there is none better; it is her Aries need to be the most important that lights that fire.
The Aries male is "the man." He won't wait around while you decide if you're jumping in. He can't imagine why you have to think about it anyway. Always "on," always ready, always adventurous. He loves to act out fantasies. He loves to be the star of those fantasies. The Ram is happy to listen to you talk while he's riding you, as long as it's about him. Spin him a fantastical yarn about how he's being watched by a room full of masked people who can't wait for their turn to fuck him...the spotlight illuminates the steady pump of his sculpted ass...hands stroke his legs...the odd lubed finger slips in to ready his perfect.... Well, don't make it too good until you're done yourself, or you won't be.
Aries natives love a challenge, so give them one. Tell them you don't feel like it right now, but a word of caution; the reason better be that there's something wrong with you, not them. As self-confident and arrogant as they seem any imagined slight by you is going to take you quite a while to talk yourself back out of.
If you really need them to do something try asking while giving them a nice head rub. Enjoying the warm tongue between your legs and want that building towards sensation to last a bit longer because it feels so good? Reach down and run your fingers through their hair, over their head, along the edge of their perfect ears. Careful though, try not to dig in too much when you come -- it's not the same -- you might be beyond caring, but they're not. It's still got to be a good hurt.
ARIES-ARIES
Now who is going to be in charge here? Can the simultaneous orgasm occur enough to satisfy the me-ness of this pairing? If these two put their heads together and come up with some sort of scenario that allows a give and take of leadership it could work. Five strokes for you, five strokes for me -- it's as simple as taking turns.
ARIES-TAURUS
These are both very sensual, sexual beings. Taurus is going to benefit from the Aries shot of imagination and Aries will appreciate the comforts of home that Taurus provides. Imagine a tool bench where every clip and clamp is where it belongs, every whip hangs tails down, the oils and lubes and wipes are within easy reach...you don't have to look for anything. Taurus is ready when Aries is.
ARIES-GEMINI
Gemini is as eager for new experiences as Aries is and smart enough to keep Aries interested. Gemini's elusiveness piques Aries interest and Aries will think nothing of hunting Gemini down no matter which bed they're hiding under. This control issue can upset the Gemini freedom-fetish and if Gemini can get over it then these two can talk themselves into anything.
ARIES-CANCER
An early fascination with each other sexually wears off when their true personalities appear. Cancer is too insecure to deal with the Aries ego and aggressiveness -- thinking that anything has to do with them -- when in fact it's all to do with Aries. It will be the Aries partner who decides to continue here and if so, do the work to keep it going.
ARIES-LEO
A gigantic clash of egos and hopelessly drawn to each other; neither can fathom the others self-absorbance. The key here is deciding whether this is foreplay or not. If it is, do not get between them; if it isn't, do not get between them.
ARIES-VIRGO
Virgo is initially attracted to the boldness that is Aries, but they are fundamentally different. If Aries were to initiate a phone conversation that culminated in some self-satisfying moaning and groaning, other signs might think what a fabulous filthy freak; Virgo may just think filthy or freak. They will be at odds most times and have to make constant adjustments for each other. Way too much work for self-involved Aries.
ARIES-LIBRA
Both like the finer things in life -- why fuck on the floor when there's this big satin-sheeted comfy bed? Languid bubble baths over shower sex; each will make the effort to please the other even if it takes all night, in fact why not take all night and do it right all three times -- no make that four. Does that sticky morning go count for today or is it included in last night's fun? Aries requires constant adoration and while working the room, Libra will have to remember to privately work a finger in somewhere wet, squeeze a cock, or discretely pinch a nipple or two, letting Aries know they haven't been forgotten.
ARIES-SCORPIO
Sexually, passionately, energetically, and physically a well-matched pair. Scorpio has the imagination to fuel Aries' fantasies and the wherewithal to figure out very early that this gives them the control they want. Aries won't mind giving up control in bed as long as they remain the number one focus. It's still a delicate balance though as Aries fights to keep control of everything else.
ARIES-SAGITTARIUS
Sagittarius is as spontaneous and social as Aries. They are honest and sometimes brutally frank with each other. Sagittarius is not intimidated by Aries' aggressiveness or competitiveness. It would be exhausting just to watch these two out last, out fuck, out come each other. Whose tongue is going to give out first?
ARIES-CAPRICORN
Aries needs way more demonstrations of affection than Capricorn is capable of giving. Capricorn buys a plug because it's the next size up and they think you're ready; not because the color reminded them of the rosy tinge your perfect backside gets after the right amount of paddling. Aries appreciates the new plug and that you've gone and got it, but would like to be told that his ass is perfect, and yes it would look nice stretched just a bit more, but, essentially, it is indeed quite perfect.
ARIES-AQUARIUS
Both Aries and Aquarius are eager for sexual adventure. The Aquarian tendency towards unpredictability leaves Aries feeling a bit insecure, but this can excite Aries as the chase is then ongoing -- it's a circle -- like having sex on a merry-go-round -- until you get dizzy and fall off -- and the carnies are standing there looking at you, ass all sandy and knees scraped, old candy-floss stuck to the end of your....it's all fun and games till somebody gets hurt.
ARIES-PISCES
Pisces is smart enough to feed the vacuum that is the Aries ego. Their dark mysterious sexuality draws Aries in and the light that shines here for our Rams is the fantasy land that is Pisces. If Aries is lucky enough to get there, they will be allowed to lead as much as they want or be allowed to think they are leading. They just have to remember that Pisces needs to feel loved emotionally and intellectually as well as physically. Aries will have to expand on the after-coitus snuggling and cooing and keep it up.
