by H. L. Shaw

My first experience with masturbation occured not too long after I learned to pee by myself. I figured out that if I put the toilet seat down and crossed my legs after urination, it would feel good. I had no idea that this had anything to do with sex, and I remember talking about it with other girls my age, advising them to do the same.

Around the age of 10 or 11 I discovered that if I crossed my legs before I peed, and pressed down on my lap, that the feelings I got were even more intense. I would rock back and forth, imagining sexy scenarios in my head, until I shuddered in pleasure. Unfortunately, the lid on the back of the toilet would give under my undulations, slamming into the wall behind it, causing the dreaded parental interference:

"Honey, you ok in there?"

"Yeah. Leave me alone!"

My early teens found me experimenting with any phallic-shaped object I could find. I was especially into some large fabric markers that I owned. I would lie on my bed and insert them into myself before rolling to my side, crossing my legs and rocking as I did on the toilet. The added pressure from inside seemed to add to the experience. Unfortunately, the hard edges were uncomfortable and, eventually, the markers just didn't seem to be large enough any more.

Needless to say, my masturbation techniques have become much more refined.

I present here, for your perusal, two of my favorite ways to get off by myself. Both methods require very little in the way of toys or special equipment. The first is intended for a quick fix when you find yourself either pressed for time or space to masturbate. The second takes you on an expedition over your own body, stopping to appreciate the scenery along the way.

Either of these can be enhanced by erotic reading materials. (My most recent favorite to jill off to is Carol Queen's "The Leather Daddy and the Femme", but I also recommend "Best American Erotica" and any of the Herotica series.) I would also suggest that you find a place where you'll be both comfortable and uninterupted. Masturbation doesn't always have to be a private event, but for our purposes, we want you as uninhibited as possible. And remember, these are just a sampling of the myriad ways a woman can muff off.

Bedtime Hobby Horse

Materials needed:
- Bed sheets/blankets, towels or other fabric

This is an old favorite I still use sometimes in the mornings or other times I find myself without my toys. Lying in bed, bring the bedsheets or towel between your legs. (You can perform this either with or without your panties). Arrange the folds of fabric by pulling up so that most of the pressure is on your clit in front and your asshole in back. Cross your legs if thats comfortable for you, otherwise just squeeze your thighs together, pressing the fabric against your clit from the sides as well as the front. Squeeze with your legs, then release. Yank up on the fabric in front to stimulate your clit, or pull up from behind (loop the fabric over one hip) to rub against your ass. Rock back and forth, roll over to one side, or pump your hips in alternating rhythms.

Come.

Repeat.

Massage

Materials needed:
- comfortable place to lie down
- oil, lotion or lube suitable for use on genitals
- mirror (optional)

This is the quintessential method for female masturbation. Wash your hands first, as you might want to put them inside you, and if they're clean you'll not have to worry about foreign bacteria. Disrobe, then lie on your back in a comfortable setting. Starting at the top of your head, lightly run your hands all over your body. Pay special attention to areas you usually don't touch yourself, such as your jawline, neck and collarbone. Touch yourself as you'd like your lover to touch you, taking delight in the texture of your skin and the shiverous reactions you get.

Stroke your breasts along the sides, teasing up to your nipples several times before touching them. When you do touch them, start by brushing them lightly. Try rolling one in between your thumb and forefinger, or pinching if the mood strikes you. If you do pinch, and you like it, pull up slightly, letting the nipple take the weight of the breast. Let go and admire the bounce and jiggle. Stay here as long as you like.

When you feel ready, slide your hands down off your breasts and over your abdomen. Stroke along your sides, noticing the swell of your hips, the dip towards your mound, the depth of your navel. Place both hands flat on your stomach and press down, running them on either side of your pubis, sliding them along the inside of your thighs. Press in and pull your hands back up to your abdomen, allowing the sides of them to dig along your labia. Repeat this move as often as you like, remembering to vary pressure and duration.

Now, put your hands back inside your thighs, but this time when you pull up, open your legs. Let the sides of your hands run deeper along the labia, dipping your thumbs just a little bit inside. Keep your hands here for awhile. Using oil or lube, massage this entire area, paying special attention to the sides at first. Grasp your labial lips in your fingers and pull yourself open, relishing the feel of cool air on your wet cunt. Dip your index finger along the inner valley, playing at the opening to your vagina. Run the sides of your fingers along either side of your clit, massaging it without pulling the hood back. This is especially effective if you press down with the heel of your hand on your mound while rubbing.

When (and if) you feel up to it, insert a finger or two inside yourself. Notice the roughish texture of your cunt - explore your personal valleys. Find out where you're the most sensitive by pressing your fingers at different intervals along the inside walls; often the entrance is the most sensitive, and you can excite yourself by quick, shallow in-out movements here. If you raise your hips, you might even be able to touch your cervix, which can be very exciting; however be warned that many women find this uncomfortable.

The G spot is something I thought was either a myth or missing on myself until a lover found it for me recently. You can look for yours by inserting your middle (longest) finger into your vagina, palm down. Press up and forward along the top of your tunnel, working your way between the folds, gyrating your finger in small circles. My G spot feels like the end of my public bone, rather hard and knobby, but this could vary from woman to woman. I find this so exciting I can't take pressure on it for too long, so only play as long as it's fun.

Every woman comes from different stimulation, so I can't exactly tell you how to get off when you're ready for an orgasm. Experimentation is key; be sure to tease yourself, rubbing the really good spots for awhile, then moving back to something that is "merely" pleasant and pleasurable. When you've built up a good tension, try increasing pressure and duration on the spots that feel the best - this may be your clit, or your G spot, or even your ass. If you like both penetration and clitoral stimulation, try rubbing your whole hand up and down between your legs, making sure to drag it hard over your clit before plunging it into your cunt. Let yourself make noises - it's surprising how much the sound of your own, self-induced moans can turn you on. Pump your hips, as it will help "involve" you in the stimulation; I find moving my whole body can sometimes fool me into feeling like I'm with someone else. Thrash, moan, and get involved in the lovemaking; the more you put into it, the more you get into it, the better your results will be.

And, if you come, wonderful. But if you don't, it's ok too. The worst thing you can do is expect yourself to come and berate yourself if you don't. There's no pressure here, you just want to do what feels good to you. If you can relax and let yourself just enjoy the sensations, an orgasm will find you eventually.

But, if you come once, know that you don't have to stop there. If you play with yourself often enough, you'll learn how to ride that wave of orgasm into its shallow valley, catch your breath, then start up the next hill. Multiple orgasms are not a myth, but the best way to make them a reality is to learn to give them to yourself.

So what are you waiting for? Grab a blanket or wash your hands and go love yourself!